So if you didn’t see yesterday, Chris and I got engaged a few days ago! We are so happy and excited and are really looking forward to the next few months of planning and anticipation. However, I am not the biggest fan of big events or parties, so this has already inevitably brought some anxiety and worry about. Luckily Chris is just about the best person ever in social situations and knows how to calm me down when I get overwhelmed, but there are still certain things that we want to make sure are in place to ensure that this day is how we want it to be.
I’m really looking forward to planning a wedding, obviously because it’s officially the start of Chris and I’s life together, but also because I just really love to organize and plan things. I actually majored in Hospitality Business Management in my undergrad with a specialization in event planning. I thought after graduation I would move to California and be a wedding planner for high-end clients, but that sure didn’t happen. I did work as a wedding coordinator in a local hotel for a while, but was immediately put off by the rude brides and got a sour taste in my mouth about weddings in general.
I think what I dislike the most about weddings is that a lot of them (at least to me) don’t seem to be about the couple in love. It’s more of an excuse to drink a lot and party and socialize with people you either don’t know very well or don’t like and just felt like you had to have there and you don’t even end up getting to spend time with your family and friends, who you really did want there and who will be a huge part of your life moving forward. So our goal with this wedding is to have the people that we really want there, that we know will continue to be in our lives once we are married, and to do things our way and not get swayed by what we “think” we should be doing.
Of course our families and friends are excited and want to celebrate and we appreciate that so much, but we also want this next planning season and the day itself to be about setting us and our loved ones up for a happy, healthy, long life. Just typing that out makes me smile really big and encourages me to set clear expectations, especially with my mom and sisters who are already bugging me about what they can be doing 😉
Writing about things like this really helps me too, so if any of you are married and have any tips for planning a wedding when you’re introverted and don’t love big crowds, I’m all ears haha. But don’t get me wrong – I am so excited to have all the people we love the most in one place. I just want to make sure that it’s a fun day for everyone and that when people get our wedding invitations they don’t groan like I typically do when I get an invite. We want them to be excited and know that it’s going to be a fun, chill day for everyone – not just us.
To be honest I think what we are looking forward to planning most is the honeymoon – but who wouldn’t be? As much as we want to go be adventurous and do something wild together, we also just want to go to an all-inclusive resort and do zero things but lay in the sun and drink cocktails. My biggest problem is that I’ll probably be spending more time researching honeymoon stuff than wedding stuff and my mom will get frustrated with me and it will be a whole deal….just kidding. Kind of. I think in general we just want to go somewhere that is going to be super memorable for us and is going to be a trip that we can always look back fondly on.
One more thing we are excited to do together is make a wedding playlist. I don’t think I’ve ever mentioned this before, but our relationship kind of started on Spotify? Chris and I knew each other for about 1.5 years before we started dating, but a few months before our first date Chris randomly sent me a playlist on Spotify that he had made that I loved. It got us messaging and sending music back and forth and eventually using it like email almost. Eventually he asked for my number (over Spotify…) and that was that! So music is really important to us and we want to make a playlist together for the wedding, choosing really intentional songs that we both love.
My main thought after saying all that on getting married is that I have never felt more loved in my entire life and feel so, so blessed that this amazing man actually wants to have a life with me, forever. Sometimes it’s hard for me to believe people when they tell me something, but I have never had one hesitation with Chris when he tells me how he feels about me. And that is probably the best feeling in the world I have experienced so far.
I would love to hear any wedding planning tips and/or tricks you may have if you’re willing to share!